Put on a Happy Face

A smile makes people feel welcome and comfortable!

It is hard to stay in a bad mood when you a smile on your face.

Life has its winners & losers, but nobody's born a winner.

You have to learn how to win. If you do not, you automatically train yourself to lose.

Losing doesn't have to be a life sentence.....We aren't born ineffective.

It is never too late to restore the dream.

All it takes is the will to top the deepest capacity that's within you, embrace it, claim it, make it your own.

True awakening is not something you jump out of bed and just do. Unless you just happen to be born perfect, it takes effort to work on yourself & grow, to correct the weaknesses & develop the combination of skills, attitudes, & personal character that add up to a winning way of life.

You cannot possibly become what you wish to be by remaining what you are.

Our disappointments are almost never anybody else's fault. They are largely our own doing, the result of failing to learn how to deal successfully with other people.

Look for personal power at home, on the job, or out in the community.

You will find people who have a knack of dealing with people in meaningful & enjoyable ways that bring personal satisfaction to all concerned.

Only when you recognize & understand that the impact of your behavior causes people to respond to you in the ways that rob you of confidence & undermine power, can you hope to find a way around your mistakes.

But understanding yourself is only half of the process. Doing something about it is the rest.

your_girl_amy@yahoo.com

a favor

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Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it.

From a distance, each horse looks like any other horse. But if you stop your car, or are walking by, you will notice something quite amazing.....

Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind. His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him.



This alone is amazing.

If you stand nearby and listen, you will hear the sound of a bell.
Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field.

Attached to the horse's halter is a small bell

It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow.



As you stand and watch these two friends,
you'll see that the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse,
and that the blind horse will listen for the bell and then slowly walk
to where the other horse is,
trusting that he will not be led astray.


When the horse with the bell returns
to the shelter of the barn each evening,
it stops occasionally and looks back,
making sure that the blind friend isn't too far behind to hear the bell.



Like the blind horse,
we should not be thrown away just because we are not perfect
or because we have problems or challenges.

Sometimes we are the blind horse
being guided by the little ringing bell of those who are placed in our lives.
Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way....
Good friends are like that .... you may not always see them, but you know they are always there.

Please listen for my bell and I'll listen for yours.
And remember...
be kinder than necessary -
everyone you meet is fighting
some kind of battle.

Live simply,
Love generously,
Care deeply,
Speak kindly....

To stay or not to stay....

Are you in a relationship & you are trying to figure out if you should stay or leave it behind?

There is no magic formula for whether one should stay or go.

It is an individual decision that should not be taken lightly.

You should not stay in something only because you are afraid of being alone.

You should not commit to someone because you are afraid you will never find anyone else.

Every relationship is going to have its up & downs.

If two people are committed to making things work & they still love each other as partners & friends, they have a great chance of growing as a couple.

It is up to you to decide though.

Are you or are you not currently happy in your relationship?

Is your partner also dissatisfied?

Are you constantly looking to your partner to make you happy?

Remember that just because you aren't happy doesn't mean there's anything critically wrong in your relationship. You could be blaming your partner for your unhappiness, when you need to take responsibility for creating your own happiness.

On the flipside, there could be fundamental problems that need to be addressed.

If you have been unhappy for awhile & your partner isn't intersted in working to improve the relationship, it may be time for you to explore your options.

If there are fundamental problems, have you sought out help?

If you still care for your partner, don't throw in the towel before you have given it your all.

No matter the final outcome, you will feel at peace that you gave it your best effort.

Do not let fear be the decision maker.

If you are extremely unhappy in a relationship & you have tried several methods of reconciliation, then it may be time to take a break.

So many people assume it is a black or white issue, meaning you either stay together or completely break up.

There's always a gray area to explore if you choose.

Temporarily separate in order to rethink your options & see how it feels to be aloen.

Each & every one of you is stronger than you may think.

Make sure you either leave for the right reasons or stay for the right reasons.

need some life help?

I am here for you

your_girl_amy@yahoo.com

what do I say??

Last week my world was turned upside down by the very thing I am constantly talking to you about.

Yes, I am talking about a guy.

I was happy and it was suddenly and shockingly ripped from me.

And I did things that I tell other females not to.

I acted rashly.

I didn't allow myself to back away from the situation and look at the big picture.

I was not going to die, but I sure felt like my heart had been ripped from my chest.

I allowed this guy into my life. Allowed myself to care for him. Allowed him into my heart. Allowed myself to feel for him.....then he bailed on me.

Typical story, right?

All I could think was why did I do this to myself...

I wasn't given reasons or explanations. I was confused and hurt.

Well, I'm here to say it's been a week & I've bounced back.

I want to be honest with the people who read my blog & the people who follow me, the people who care about what I have to say.

I have been through this stuff too.

I know what it feels like and it doesn't feel good.

Now I know that I will go on. I still want him. But I have plans for my future. I still care about him that hasn't changed.

However, now is time for me. I must take this time to focus on me and my future. My business & what I plan for my future.

I am strong. I shall survive.

Raise your standards & Believe in yourself!

Be honest.....Are you completely confident and secure in your own shoes?

Do you believe in your own abilities?

.....or are you constantly questioning who you are as a person?

We all have our past, the experiences that shape who we are today. BUT those experiences do not have to shape your future.

If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?

It is important to think highly enough of yourself and your capabilities in order to portray a positive image to others. Otherwise you will just reek of negativity and people will not want to be around you because you will bring them down with you.

Each and every one of us is born with special gifts and distinctive traits. The key is knowing what yours are.

See yourself as others see you. Embrace all that you offer & everything you contribute to those around you.

Try this exercise to lift your spirits & open your eyes about yourself.:

Take out a piece of paper. Review your life and list all of your achievements. You can write down anything and everything you view as an achievement. The event doesn't have to be a huge one to be viewed as an achievement in your eyes. List as many as you can. If you get stumped, ask loved ones & friends to help out.

Once finished, step back & take a long look at your list. Then pat yourself on the back.

You did all that! Yes, you!

In order to raise your standards & believe in yourself, you need to embrace self confidence.

Everytime you talk negatively about yourself or others, it lowers your standards so just stop it.

Don't be the one to gossip or talk down to others; take the high road with class & respect.

When we talk negatively, it exudes a negative energy toward people. You can literally feel the negative energy when you meet someone like this.

Stand tall & radiate self-confidence & positive vibes.

Need some life help?

your_girl_amy@yahoo.com

Shush that Negative Voice in your Head

Going through a typical day, what does the predominant voice in your head sound like?

~ Do you hear mostly encouraging positive words like "good job" or "you can do that"?

~or are they self-defeating & negative such as "I can't believe you did that" & "you aren't smart enough"?

Sometimes we hear these words so often that we become immune to their impact on our daily lives & well-being.

It is truly amazing how profoundly these words can affect all of the decisions we make in our life.

The 1st step to become aware of the dialogue that goes on inside your head & then you can choose to replace the negative words with more constructive words.

How would it feel if you were your own biggest cheerleader? Wouldn't it feel empowering to rely on yourself to lift your spirits?

You are simply breaking down the core of who you are when you are constantly putting yourself down.

There are many things in life that you have absolutely no control over. The voice in your head however is completely under your control. You can pick & choose the words that fly around on a daily basis.

It all starts with your mind & your thoughts, & then naturally other areas of your life are able to shift positively as well.

your_girl_amy@yahoo.com

Cleaning up your relationships....

As I'm sure you have noticed, I am a big believer in making room for the new.

You may think that is a crude way to put this, but it's simply the truth.

In order to make room for the awesome new people who are destined to cross paths with you, you must make room for them.

And this means, you must clear out some of the old relationships that are not benefiting you anymore.

Ask yourself this:

How does it feel to be surrounded by people who make you feel good about yourself?

These people celebrate the person you are & support you to the best you can be.

How does it feel to be around people who drain your energy?

These individuals focus on the negatives & provide very little encouragement or joy to the relationship.

Obviously when I am talking about clearing out relationships, I'm talking about the latter.

We all know these people. Just cut ties. You do not need this constant drain.

You have many choices in your life, but choosing who to surround yourself with is essential to your physical & emotional well-being.

Now is the time for you to re-evaluate the relationships in your life & determine a course of action. Give yourself permission to spring clean the people in your life. You have the choice & ability to surround yourself with individuals who genuinely contribute to your growth & happiness.

People grow in different directions & sometimes choose to take seperate paths.

It is no ones fault.

Sometimes you may feel that a relationship is worth salvaging & that you're not quite ready to let it go. If this is the case, then it's important that you set some clear boundaries & let the other person know what changes need to be made.

If you do not communicate, nothing will change.

The people you choose to surround yourself with are a true reflection of who you are & what you value in life.

Life is far too short to spend time & energy on things that do not have much value.

If someone is holding you back form being the amazing being that you are, it's ok to stand tall & move on.

Do you need some life help?

Like my style?

email me your_girl_amy@yahoo.com