To stay or not to stay....

Are you in a relationship & you are trying to figure out if you should stay or leave it behind?

There is no magic formula for whether one should stay or go.

It is an individual decision that should not be taken lightly.

You should not stay in something only because you are afraid of being alone.

You should not commit to someone because you are afraid you will never find anyone else.

Every relationship is going to have its up & downs.

If two people are committed to making things work & they still love each other as partners & friends, they have a great chance of growing as a couple.

It is up to you to decide though.

Are you or are you not currently happy in your relationship?

Is your partner also dissatisfied?

Are you constantly looking to your partner to make you happy?

Remember that just because you aren't happy doesn't mean there's anything critically wrong in your relationship. You could be blaming your partner for your unhappiness, when you need to take responsibility for creating your own happiness.

On the flipside, there could be fundamental problems that need to be addressed.

If you have been unhappy for awhile & your partner isn't intersted in working to improve the relationship, it may be time for you to explore your options.

If there are fundamental problems, have you sought out help?

If you still care for your partner, don't throw in the towel before you have given it your all.

No matter the final outcome, you will feel at peace that you gave it your best effort.

Do not let fear be the decision maker.

If you are extremely unhappy in a relationship & you have tried several methods of reconciliation, then it may be time to take a break.

So many people assume it is a black or white issue, meaning you either stay together or completely break up.

There's always a gray area to explore if you choose.

Temporarily separate in order to rethink your options & see how it feels to be aloen.

Each & every one of you is stronger than you may think.

Make sure you either leave for the right reasons or stay for the right reasons.

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Cleaning up your relationships....

As I'm sure you have noticed, I am a big believer in making room for the new.

You may think that is a crude way to put this, but it's simply the truth.

In order to make room for the awesome new people who are destined to cross paths with you, you must make room for them.

And this means, you must clear out some of the old relationships that are not benefiting you anymore.

Ask yourself this:

How does it feel to be surrounded by people who make you feel good about yourself?

These people celebrate the person you are & support you to the best you can be.

How does it feel to be around people who drain your energy?

These individuals focus on the negatives & provide very little encouragement or joy to the relationship.

Obviously when I am talking about clearing out relationships, I'm talking about the latter.

We all know these people. Just cut ties. You do not need this constant drain.

You have many choices in your life, but choosing who to surround yourself with is essential to your physical & emotional well-being.

Now is the time for you to re-evaluate the relationships in your life & determine a course of action. Give yourself permission to spring clean the people in your life. You have the choice & ability to surround yourself with individuals who genuinely contribute to your growth & happiness.

People grow in different directions & sometimes choose to take seperate paths.

It is no ones fault.

Sometimes you may feel that a relationship is worth salvaging & that you're not quite ready to let it go. If this is the case, then it's important that you set some clear boundaries & let the other person know what changes need to be made.

If you do not communicate, nothing will change.

The people you choose to surround yourself with are a true reflection of who you are & what you value in life.

Life is far too short to spend time & energy on things that do not have much value.

If someone is holding you back form being the amazing being that you are, it's ok to stand tall & move on.

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Filling your funnel.......

funny saying, huh?

Well, it actually means never let the dating pool dry up.

Date many guys at once until you find the one you want to settle down with.

This works for 3 reasons:

1. you don't get attached too soon~ you aren't sitting at home thinking about Mr. 1 and only. You will drive yourself crazy by obsessing about a man. When you see him again, he will know you've been sitting around waiting too.

2. You won't be a complete wreck if things don't work out~ your confidence won't be shattered if one relationship doesn't work out because you have others.

3. Your odds are better~ the more men you date, the more likely you are to find the one.

Abusive Personalities

Do you know the signs of an abusive personality?
I do.

Sneak peak:
1. Quick involvement- only dates for 6 months or less before talking you into moving in.
2. Unrealistic Expectations- very dependent on you for everything.
3. Isolation- tries to cut you off from friends & family
4. Playful use of force during sex- likes throwing you down, holding your wrists, jumping on top of you, or holding you up against the wall to have sex
5. Verbal abuse- constantly criticizes you

There are 5 more.

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The Don'ts of Dating

Don't Stalk
Don't look needy or desperate
Don't be overly aggressive or pushy
Don't make emotional decisions
Don't rearrange your schedule for a guy

Pretty straight forward, right?

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How to get your "Go For It" Attitude!

So you want to change........
you want to better your life in one area or another.....
BUT you do not.
Why is that?
What is holding you back?

Everyone needs a little attitude adjustment from time to time.
Here's a few tips to get a "Go For It" attitude so you can make that change you want in your life.

1.Who needs permission?- There isn't any reason you cannot do what you want to do. You do not need anyone's permission so stop asking for it! You just need to believe in yourself.

2. Who needs an invitation?- In today's competitive world, you are responsible for creating your own opportunities. You cannot wait for an invitation in the mail. The opportunities may just pass you up if you are.

3. Build a support team- get rid of all the negative people in your life who are pulling you down & draining you emotionally. This pulls your strength & self-esteem down with them. You need a team of supporters. People who will stand on the sidelines & cheer for you!

This can work in any area of your life.
Weight loss goals
Starting your own business
Getting out there & dating again

Try it & see how it works out for you.
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You Are Not a Princess

Okay Ladies, do I really have to go here?
No matter how much you expect to be treated like royalty, you are not a princess. Stop expecting unrealistic things if you ever want to get married.

Women with unrealistic expectations often never marry!
They are too busy knocking every guy down that tries to woo them.

Women who have unrealistic goals for themselves & their lives are not hanging onto a better life, but they are holding out for a dream.

If you work for or around rich & powerful men, you often find yourself thinking you must marry the same type of man. Really all you are doing is becoming your own worst enemy. What about all those guys who are still working their way to the top? Do you just shoot them all down without ever really getting to know them?

Take a deep breath & consider your options. Start dating men that you could possibly have a future with.

Also,do not allow your friends & family dictate who you date based on their unrealistic expectations. Just because your mom & dad do not think anyone is good enough for you, does not really mean that no one is good enough for you.

Yes, you should have standards.
However they should not be set in stone or you may pass up "the one."

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Did you know.....

that there is an age of committment for men. This is when they are more likely to get married.
If you are looking for marriage, it is imperative that you know these facts!

This age depends on the guy's level of education as well.
For example, guys who graduate high school but do not go on to college, will be ready to marry before the college guys are.

Men like to wait until they have entered the work force & have sowed their wild oats before even considering marriage. Women have it on the brain since childhood.

If you pressure him at the wrong time, he will run.
If you bring up marriage or your future together too soon, he will run.

It is important that you get all the facts before you jump into the dating world with the intent to marry.
I have the facts.
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Hello Everyone

I am a certified Life Coach.
The areas I specialize in are: Weight Loss, Dating, & Mompreneur.

I will be adding great info to this blog about these areas.
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I will be offering Weight loss group coaching in person & via teleclasses in the future.
I will also offer teleclasses for finding Dates & the relationship you have always wanted.
Stay Tuned!