I am a single mom in Southern IL. I am a Certified Life Coach. I was certified through Katapult Enterprises. I have a Bachelors degree in Social Work & another in Psychology. I have worked in the human services field for 10 years. I feel that I am meant to help others & that is why I have pursued this area of interest. I am here for you in your time of need. I will help you walk forward with your head held high. Please feel free to email me with any questions or to book a time to speak over the phone. your_girl_amy@yahoo.com
he's making a list....checking it twice....gonna find out if you're naughty or nice...
Ok, I am not talking about truly being naughty here....Just breaking a few rules in order for YOU to get ahead in life.
Not to hurt anyone or harm anyone.
It's a dicey business to tamper with convention, but if you want to wish, dream, & do, consider becoming comfortable with bending, redefining, & otherwise breaking a few rules.
How do we become rule breakers, you ask?
In some cases, it's sort of a seat of the pants kind of deal. Perhaps you weren't planning on making an exception but you just couldn't help yourself or maybe you knew from the start that you & a particularly menacing rule were never going to see eye-to-eye. You might even have been told to wing it.
Ultimately, I believe that is why we break the rules. We need to get things done & the only way to make that happen is to turn our backs on the rules.
Like I stated earlier, you do not want to step outside the law or intentionally harm or hurt another human being.
Breaking the rules is about asserting your independence & becoming the person you are meant to be.
Each time you break a tradition in order to live your life with more truth & validity, you become a bit of a revolutionary.
Most people confine themselves to doing things the way they've always been done.
It's the risk takers, mistake makes, & rule breakers who wish, dream, & do with verve & conviction.
I believe it was Marilyn Monroe who said "well behaved women rarely make history."
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10:07 AM
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Giving creates space for more to come in.
Some form of giving is an integral part of prosperity. Most people who are blessed with wealth feel a desire to give back in some way.
Take a moment and think of someone who is blessed in this way. Do they give back?
When you give you embody this important aspect of wealth & place yourself in the company of millionaires & billionaires around the globe.
Giving is the natural counterpart to receiving.
In order for you to fully experience abundance, money needs to flow through, not just into, your life.
The only one who puts limits on how much you can receive is you.
If you cannot give money, perhaps you can be generous with your time, skills, or compassion.
The more consistently you give, the more you will benefit from the energy of giving. How much & where you give is less important than the giving itself.
Giving should be done as a gesture of gratitude, not obligation.
Give away a little bit of money everyday. A penny is enough. Drop it in a collection jar, give a tip at your coffee shop, or leave a quarter on a shelf at your grocery store for someone to find.
Give something each time you are asked instead of saying not today.
If your career provides regular cash income such as tips, choose a percentage between 1% & 5% to give away over the next 30 days. Each day count the appropriate portion of what you have received & give that away within 24 hours.
If you absolutely can't give money at this time, donate at least 1 hour a week to a worthy cause or organization.
I am giving away FREE feng shui tips. What would you like to attract into your life? Wealth? Love? Weight loss?
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11:47 AM
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Twas the day before Thanksgiving.....what are you grateful for?
How often do you truly express gratitude for everything you have in your life?
The sheer act of expressing gratitude sends out a signal to the Universe to send you more things to be grateful for.
Embracing gratitude not only helps you focus on the here & now, but it also makes you appreciative of all you do have in your life right now.
We spend so much time wanting & wishing. Well, how about just being thankful & grateful for today & what was in our life today.
Instead of wasting energy complaining about what you do not have, spend that exact same energy on what is currently in your life that you are appreciative for. If you have a thought that is leading to lackful thinking or a complaint, stop yourself in your tracks & replace it with a thought that is appreciative, grateful, or thankful.
The more appreciative you are, the more you attract that positive flow into your life.
If you don't believe me, just try it for a couple of days. I guarantee you will at least feel a little lighter, less weighed down by all those negative thoughts.
Here is something else you can try. Keep a gratitude journal. I do this myself. I write 10 things in mine each night before bed. Then I write out some affirmations. I essentially fill up the whole page each night. Sometimes I have to scribble in the sides to have room for everything I want to say to myself. If 10 things seem like too many, write 5 things you are grateful for. Try to list different things each day. The point is you are acknowledging these things you are grateful for each day.
You do not have to do it at night like I do. You can do it whenever you want.
This helps develop your awareness for being in the moment.
Take a moment every day, to stop & smell the roses. Look for simple things each day that put a smile on your face. Then hold on to that feeling.
Here are some affirmations about being grateful that you can use:
I am grateful that I'm attracting positive & enriching people into my life.
I am grateful that people are coming into my life to help me on my journey.
I am grateful that I have the tools & insight to live the best life possible.
I am grateful for the many opportunities the Universe has sent to me during my life.
If you like my style & think you may enjoy my coaching, please feel free to email me.
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7:00 AM
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
We may actually be putting our kids in danger by the contradicting messages we send.
We tell them not to trust strangers, yet
-we drop them off at ball practice with coaches we may never have met
-we allow them to stay after school because they will be with their teacher
-we send them to dance lessons
-scout meetings
-play groups
-daycare centers
-friends' homes
-malls
-movie theaters
-parks
-parties
-beaches
-even to the doctors office
without making sure that they are able to recognize when they are in danger
All of these places and circumstances are full of people they do not know & we do not know. Full of possible child predators.
We teach our kids not to take candy from strangers, but on Halloween, we often make exceptions, especially if it's in our own neighborhood, where sexual predators may lurk or reside.
And while we tell them not to even talk to strangers, we make an exception there too for police officers or other representatives of authority.
However, sexual predators have jobs in every profession.
There are no exceptions; they are white collar professionals, blue collar worker, & unemployed individuals.
It's impossible to tell sexual predators from the rest of the population. They are everywhere.
Instead of picking out a group of people to whom our kids can turn to when they are in trouble, such as police officers, we need to simply & openly teach children how to know where to turn.
They have to be trained to use their own intuition about people & use it in conjunction with the information that we have provided to them.
Predators can easily gain the trust of a child, instill in them a feeling of security, & often lead them astray by convincing them that they are mature enough to make their own decisions.
That is why we need to teach children, starting from a very early age, the vitally important information to help them take the power away from the predator.
*Children need to be aware that predators can & will approach them in broad daylight, & on the internet, anywhere at anytime.
If we can instill in our children the need to be completely aware of their surroundings on a much higher level than we generally do, then it's a start.
If we let children know at a young age that people older than them cannot always be trusted, that someone may try to talk to them about things like secrets & special friendships & that children need to tell on them, then we are making some progress. If we explain openly & honestly that there is nobody that can be crossed off the list of people to follow the rules about, then we might just get through to them.
Kids are resilient. They are smarter than we think. Giving them the tools to protect themselves at an early age is wise because it will come naturally to them as just another lesson in life.
I want to help you, as parents, educate yourselves & your children about these predators.
After a conversation I had this weekend, I felt the need to write about codependency.
10 signs of a codependent personality:
1)relationship addiction- this person has no sense of themself or feel they are of value so they must continually be in a relationship to feel that high. In other words, they are just an extension of that other person instead of being their own person.
2) Lack of boundaries- codependents have a habit of lacking emotional boundaries. They are like a chameleon. They change emotionally to fit the situation.
3)Value is placed on what people think of them- They will apologize for things they cannot control. They figure out what a person wants & give it to them.
4)The feel indispensable- they feel that people wouldn't want them around if they are not giving something.
5)What do you think- a question you will often hear from codependent people. Do not trust in own thoughts or opinions.
6)Center of Universe- codependent people are self-centered but in a different way. They bring stuff around to be their fault. They are constantly apologizing. They create drama.
7)Emotional walls- Due to a codependents need to help & take care of others, they neglect themselves. They do not have own emotions.
8)Liar- most people lie to get themselves out of trouble. They lie to others to get themselves out of uncomfortable situations or confrontations. Codependents lie to self about own feelings. It's hard for them to face true feelings.
9)Fear of abandonment- codependent needs to be involved in ever aspect of significant others life & if not they perceive it as abandonment. This is usually rooted from something in their past.
10)Control & judgement- codependent people crave control & it comes from deep seeded fear. Codependent people are very judgemental of others.
Let's use romantic relationships as an example.
When in love, you either fit or not. You do not change yourself to fit.
Codependents change themselves to fit every relationship.
I have more on codependency that I will post very very soon.
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7:32 AM
Thursday, September 23, 2010
I've been planning this blog post for a month now. Thinking it over in my head. I never write out blogs posts beforehand. I always just sit down and type.
Maybe not always a smart move, but it's me.
I want to talk about the fact that I've been Scott-Free for 1 year this month.
Anyone who knows me knows exactly what I am talking about & knows what a HUGE accomplishment this is.
I was in an on again/off again relationship with a not so great for me guy for 12 years of my adult life.
It started when I was 18.
As I look back, I was so smitten.
I loved that boy with every ounce of my being. Would have gone to hell & back.
Maybe I did.
So that was the song back in the day. Yup, explained exactly how I felt. O yea, it came out on the Coyote Ugly Soundtrack. I am not saying it isn't old. I am saying I am not old.
So This guy was 24 when we officially started dating & I was 21. I spent the prior 3 yrs running from him. I must have known he was trouble, right. But I was in love from the get go.
And I still love him. I am not in love with him.
He is an alcoholic and a few other things, but I will not air that dirty laundry. I am not sure how I came to feel so responsible for him. I know that I felt we were soul mates. He never told me that. He did tell me he loved me & I believe he did....to the best of his ability. Alcoholics are manipulative. I could not see that then. They are also co-dependent. I also could not see that then. When I was 21, this relationship was fun. Then I grew up.
Once I had a child, this relationship wasn't so ok anymore. I still participated in it though. Especially that summer, but I'm not going to get into all the gory details.
Now onto the next song.
And that just about sums up how I feel now.
And I credit life coaching for helping me walk away a year ago. I did it in steps.
I am now able to allow new guys into my life and actually contemplate new relationships where before that wouldn't have even entered my mind.
Imagine 12 years of maybe going on a couple of dates with a guy but not really committing yourself to them because you were committed to a guy who was more committed to alcohol than you. Not fun. He once was dating 2 other girls at the same time as me & I discovered it. I quit talking to him for a week before he showed up on my porch & weaseled his way back in.
I can see it all quite clearly....NOW.
Do you know why I write all this? Because I want you, my readers to realize I am a real person. I have been through crap just like you. Maybe you and I have been in similar situations. I can relate to what you are going through.
I am this girl. I have been there, done that. I want to help you get to where you want to be. I had someone help me get away. Sometimes it's too hard to do it on your own.
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3:46 AM
Friday, September 3, 2010
August marked an important anniversary for me. It has been 1 year since my life crisis that catapulted me into life coaching & the life I am now living.
Most people around me know nothing about this life crisis.
Last August while my daughter was in Florida without me, I suddenly & violently almost, realized I was incredibly unhappy.
And I did not know what to do about it.
I didn't know how to fix it, what I wanted to do instead of what I was doing, or where to go from there. I couldn't stop crying. Then came the drinking. I was drunk a lot of nights while my daughter was gone. I am not afraid to admit it or tell you all about it. I was lost. Did not know what to do. I just knew I was unhappy & I wanted it to change.
I quickly found life coaching and new it was for me.
Coaching has helped me to have another anniversary that I will be celebrating in September. Don't worry, I will blog about it too.
Through life coaching, I have learned how to be a better person. I have remained positive for the most part throughout this past year. I know that sometimes you have to take a step back & evaluate situations & decide whether or not it's even worth your time & energy. I used to waste a lot of energy.
Now I am creating a program to train life coaches myself. I am so grateful for life coaching & how it has changed my life. I want to give back & help others.
I am going to list some characteristics of a child predator, but it's important to remember that they do not all meet these characteristics. There are always those predators who are outside the box that experts have identified.
-The average child predator is male & over the age of 25.
-he could be considered the guy down the street who kept to himself.
-the loner type, very few friends, & typically not married.
-most often has limited social skills, but a propensity to engage in conversation with an adolescent or child.
-tends to become shy with adults of his own age.
-seeks out jobs that allow him to work around children.
Child predators come from all walks of life, some are rich, some are poor, some are educated and some are not.
They usually have a sexually abusive or violent background.
Child predators usually see nothing wrong with their behavior.
They will target numerous children at a time.
They will take their time to groom their victims & their words are very thought out.
Once trust is built, blackmail & guilt are often used to get the child to succumb to their demands.
As a parent, you need to create open dialogue with your child & set clear rules regarding the computer & internet usage.
Watch what they are doing online, but do it openly.
Set trust between you and your child.
Be honest & tell them what can happen.
If you have any questions at all, please feel free to contact me.
This does happen...it could happen to your child. Be smart, get educated.
I hate to be the one to point out the cold hard facts, but someone has to. Not everyone can remain silent.
On the average, 1 woman is being raped somewhere in the United States every minute of the day.
1 out of every 4 women born in this country will be raped at some point in her life.
According to FBI statistics, in the US alone, more than 100,000 women report being raped each year & an additional 400,000 to 900,000 women are raped but do not report the crime.
Most rapes go unreported & fewer than 10% of reported rapists go to jail.
Most rapists are still out walking the streets, free to rape again.
Now I do not say these things to scare you.
It's important to know what you are up against. It's important to know the facts.
It's important to be educated.
Rape occurs anytime a person is forced or coerced, physically or through verbal threats, into any type of sexual contact with another person, whether the assailant is a friend, an acquaintance, an employer or fellow employee, a husband or a stranger.
Each of us probably knows at least 1 other person who has been raped.
If you have been raped, you are not alone. There is help.
No matter what you could have done differently, the rapist- NOT you- is to blame for the assault.
Whatever you are thinking in your head that you did or that other people have told you you should have done differently, you did NOT deserve to be raped!
Sure you were probably doing things you usually do & you got hurt this time, but that doesn't mean you should have known better or done things differently.
There is help for you.
If you feel this is something I can help you through, please email me. You do not have to go through this alone.
Some young people are particularly vulnerable to online predators.
May display some of the following traits:
~new online & unfamiliar with netiquette. But even the most web savvy teens can be seduced by predators who are good at what they do.
~Actively seeking attention or affection
~Rebellious
~isolated/lonely
~Curious
~Confused regarding sexual identity
~Easily tricked by adults
~Allured by subcultures outside of parents' world.
Here are some characteristics of typical victims:
-most but not all victims are between the age of 12 & 15
-Most victims have an instant message account but haven't set up privacy or security settings & willingly engage in conversations with strangers.
-live in suburban or rural towns
-are very sheltered & naive
-tend to be loners with few offline friends.
-tend to spend more than 90 minutes online after homework per day
-are secretive about their internet activities
-tend to have few activities outside of the internet.
Just because your child matches one or more of these characteristics does not mean they are being targeted by predators. However, your child is not perfectly safe if they match none of these characteristics.
Be an involved parent. Ask your child questions. Explain why you want to know this info.
Open & honest.
If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me for a FREE consultation.
An online predator goes online & searches until he sees a potential victim who fits his age, gender, & other preferences. These will vary from predator to predator.
The predator begins to gather info about the potential victim.
This is how he/she bonds with the victim. They find out what they like & dislike, what kind of home life they have.
Predator will look at the child's demeanor, personality, dress, & financial status.
They are looking for the child's interests & vulnerabilities at the same time.
Now this process doesn't occur over night. It usually goes on for months.
Predators prefer children of a single mom. Think about it...the mom usually has to work which means the child is home alone if old enough. They have more time to play around online without interruption.
Predators are skilled at knowing the emotional & physical needs of children.
And they prey on these needs.
As I've stated before, teens are vulnerable emotionally. A predator talks to them like a friend. Consoling them, agreeing with them. Makes the child identify with the predator & creates the bond.
The predator begins to talk to them more & more. Emailing. Possibly texting.
They sometimes wait a bit before introducing sexual stuff in the conversation.
But there are always those who jump right in.
Sometimes even if the child doesn't feel comfortable with this type of talk, they go along with it because they do not want to lose this new friendship with this person who supposedly completely understands them.
If your child doesn't have a webcam, the predator may purchase one for them & mail it over. Be on the lookout for this. Prohibit webcams.
Stress to your child that once you email, post, or text a photo of yourself, it's out there & you can never get it back.
Kids do not always get that. They think that whoever they are sending that picture to would never share it. Well, these predators will! It will show up online somewhere you do not want it & may never know it's there most likely.
The predator may start sending gifts too. Be on the lookout for this as well.
Could mean your child has already started sending pics, but could just be a way for the predator to better bond with your child.
They are weaseling their way in by buying your child.
This is the beginning of the process and if you keep your eyes open, you can see it happening.
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11:32 AM
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Do you remember what it was like to be a teenager?
You feel lonely..lost. Everyone is against you.
Today it's even more difficult to suffer through the teenage years with the internet.
There's online bullying for starters. But that's a whole other post.
Grooming is the process predators use to bond with their victim.
It's how they develop a close relationship with the child.
It can be compared to seduction.
Online predators gradually seduce their potential victims through the use of attention, affection, kindness, & gifts. They are willing to devote considerable amounts of time, money, & energy to this process.
The predators will be aware of the latest music & hobbies likely to interest kids & will listen to & sympathize with kids' problems.
They also try to lower young people's inhibitions by gradually introducing sexual content into their conversations.
Because victims have been carefully seduced, they often do not realize that they are victims.
If teens & their parents keep their eyes open, this process can be picked up on & interrupted.
The most important thing parents can do is keep an open & honest relationship with their children. Tell them about the warnings & signs I have posted. Talk to them often.
If you have any questions at all, please do not hesitate to contact me for a free consultation.
I want to keep everyone updated on what I am doing & the changes going on in my own life because they will be reflected here in my blog.
I have recently experienced a lot of changes in my life.
I had a breakthrough about a week ago.
I knew I was heading in a new direction.
Knew I was going down a new path & wanted to reach out to new people, but just didn't know who until I opened the paper on Saturday morning. I began reading an article about a local teenager and her family who basically went to hell and back. (http://www.kalynssecret.com/)
It just hit me like a ton of bricks!
I want to work with abuse victims.
I want to work with parents of teens.
I want to help them see the warning signs of cyber seduction.
I want to help prevent this.
I have always known this.
But when I was starting off as a life coach I was led down a different path because the people I was working with believed there wasn't any money in this type of work.
But here I am almost a year later & it's all come back to me.
I am embarking on a new journey and this time I will not be swayed.
I am also considering starting a training program for other people like myself to be trained to be life coaches who want to help heal.
Now back to that Saturday. I read that article, which I still have by the way. I may just keep it forever and then I felt the very powerful need to tell these people thank you! So I did just that!
They had a book signing at Barnes & Noble this past Saturday. I went & purchased the book, had them sign it. Told them what I do, what I plan on doing & how the article influenced me. Told them thank you & shook their hands.
Remember that when you show gratitude, the Universe gives you more to be grateful for. I saw just that.
So I want to continue to be motivational and inspirational with my blog, but I also want to be informative about this new area I am going into. I will be doing lots of research in the area of cyber seduction and online predators. I have attended many conferences on these areas already with the child advocacy center when I was there. I remember the horror stories. I want to be about prevention. I always hear so much about intervention.
Prevention can be taught.
You do not have to lock your children up.
You just have to keep your eyes open.
Do not be blind.
Do not not see what you do not want to see.
So again, I just wanted to keep everyone informed.
A smile makes people feel welcome and comfortable!
It is hard to stay in a bad mood when you a smile on your face.
Life has its winners & losers, but nobody's born a winner.
You have to learn how to win. If you do not, you automatically train yourself to lose.
Losing doesn't have to be a life sentence.....We aren't born ineffective.
It is never too late to restore the dream.
All it takes is the will to top the deepest capacity that's within you, embrace it, claim it, make it your own.
True awakening is not something you jump out of bed and just do. Unless you just happen to be born perfect, it takes effort to work on yourself & grow, to correct the weaknesses & develop the combination of skills, attitudes, & personal character that add up to a winning way of life.
You cannot possibly become what you wish to be by remaining what you are.
Our disappointments are almost never anybody else's fault. They are largely our own doing, the result of failing to learn how to deal successfully with other people.
Look for personal power at home, on the job, or out in the community.
You will find people who have a knack of dealing with people in meaningful & enjoyable ways that bring personal satisfaction to all concerned.
Only when you recognize & understand that the impact of your behavior causes people to respond to you in the ways that rob you of confidence & undermine power, can you hope to find a way around your mistakes.
But understanding yourself is only half of the process. Doing something about it is the rest.
Are you in a relationship & you are trying to figure out if you should stay or leave it behind?
There is no magic formula for whether one should stay or go.
It is an individual decision that should not be taken lightly.
You should not stay in something only because you are afraid of being alone.
You should not commit to someone because you are afraid you will never find anyone else.
Every relationship is going to have its up & downs.
If two people are committed to making things work & they still love each other as partners & friends, they have a great chance of growing as a couple.
It is up to you to decide though.
Are you or are you not currently happy in your relationship?
Is your partner also dissatisfied?
Are you constantly looking to your partner to make you happy?
Remember that just because you aren't happy doesn't mean there's anything critically wrong in your relationship. You could be blaming your partner for your unhappiness, when you need to take responsibility for creating your own happiness.
On the flipside, there could be fundamental problems that need to be addressed.
If you have been unhappy for awhile & your partner isn't intersted in working to improve the relationship, it may be time for you to explore your options.
If there are fundamental problems, have you sought out help?
If you still care for your partner, don't throw in the towel before you have given it your all.
No matter the final outcome, you will feel at peace that you gave it your best effort.
Do not let fear be the decision maker.
If you are extremely unhappy in a relationship & you have tried several methods of reconciliation, then it may be time to take a break.
So many people assume it is a black or white issue, meaning you either stay together or completely break up.
There's always a gray area to explore if you choose.
Temporarily separate in order to rethink your options & see how it feels to be aloen.
Each & every one of you is stronger than you may think.
Make sure you either leave for the right reasons or stay for the right reasons.
Be honest.....Are you completely confident and secure in your own shoes?
Do you believe in your own abilities?
.....or are you constantly questioning who you are as a person?
We all have our past, the experiences that shape who we are today. BUT those experiences do not have to shape your future.
If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?
It is important to think highly enough of yourself and your capabilities in order to portray a positive image to others. Otherwise you will just reek of negativity and people will not want to be around you because you will bring them down with you.
Each and every one of us is born with special gifts and distinctive traits. The key is knowing what yours are.
See yourself as others see you. Embrace all that you offer & everything you contribute to those around you.
Try this exercise to lift your spirits & open your eyes about yourself.:
Take out a piece of paper. Review your life and list all of your achievements. You can write down anything and everything you view as an achievement. The event doesn't have to be a huge one to be viewed as an achievement in your eyes. List as many as you can. If you get stumped, ask loved ones & friends to help out.
Once finished, step back & take a long look at your list. Then pat yourself on the back.
You did all that! Yes, you!
In order to raise your standards & believe in yourself, you need to embrace self confidence.
Everytime you talk negatively about yourself or others, it lowers your standards so just stop it.
Don't be the one to gossip or talk down to others; take the high road with class & respect.
When we talk negatively, it exudes a negative energy toward people. You can literally feel the negative energy when you meet someone like this.
Stand tall & radiate self-confidence & positive vibes.
Going through a typical day, what does the predominant voice in your head sound like?
~ Do you hear mostly encouraging positive words like "good job" or "you can do that"?
~or are they self-defeating & negative such as "I can't believe you did that" & "you aren't smart enough"?
Sometimes we hear these words so often that we become immune to their impact on our daily lives & well-being.
It is truly amazing how profoundly these words can affect all of the decisions we make in our life.
The 1st step to become aware of the dialogue that goes on inside your head & then you can choose to replace the negative words with more constructive words.
How would it feel if you were your own biggest cheerleader? Wouldn't it feel empowering to rely on yourself to lift your spirits?
You are simply breaking down the core of who you are when you are constantly putting yourself down.
There are many things in life that you have absolutely no control over. The voice in your head however is completely under your control. You can pick & choose the words that fly around on a daily basis.
It all starts with your mind & your thoughts, & then naturally other areas of your life are able to shift positively as well.
As I'm sure you have noticed, I am a big believer in making room for the new.
You may think that is a crude way to put this, but it's simply the truth.
In order to make room for the awesome new people who are destined to cross paths with you, you must make room for them.
And this means, you must clear out some of the old relationships that are not benefiting you anymore.
Ask yourself this:
How does it feel to be surrounded by people who make you feel good about yourself?
These people celebrate the person you are & support you to the best you can be.
How does it feel to be around people who drain your energy?
These individuals focus on the negatives & provide very little encouragement or joy to the relationship.
Obviously when I am talking about clearing out relationships, I'm talking about the latter.
We all know these people. Just cut ties. You do not need this constant drain.
You have many choices in your life, but choosing who to surround yourself with is essential to your physical & emotional well-being.
Now is the time for you to re-evaluate the relationships in your life & determine a course of action. Give yourself permission to spring clean the people in your life. You have the choice & ability to surround yourself with individuals who genuinely contribute to your growth & happiness.
People grow in different directions & sometimes choose to take seperate paths.
It is no ones fault.
Sometimes you may feel that a relationship is worth salvaging & that you're not quite ready to let it go. If this is the case, then it's important that you set some clear boundaries & let the other person know what changes need to be made.
If you do not communicate, nothing will change.
The people you choose to surround yourself with are a true reflection of who you are & what you value in life.
Life is far too short to spend time & energy on things that do not have much value.
If someone is holding you back form being the amazing being that you are, it's ok to stand tall & move on.
Who, exactly, seeks out a coach?? Winners who want even more out of life." — Chicago Tribune,
"The hottest thing in management is the
executive coach —
part boss, part consultant, part therapist.
Betsy Morris
Got a nagging feeling that your life could be
more fulfilling? Want to change direction but aren't sure how to do it? Here's how to jump start your new life today? Hire a personal coach."
— Modern Maturity
Coaching can certainly help you strengthen
your sense of selfworth, focus on your goals — and get there, fast."
— The London Daily Telegraph
"…a personal coach is better than a
best friend."
Coaching is an action-oriented partnership
that, unlike psychotherapy which delves into patterns of the past, concentrates on where you are today and how you can reach your goals."
— Time
"Coaching is not about the past or figuring
out why and how life got so complicated or overwhelming. It is about moving forward on the things that matter most to you, dissolving barriers and blocks to your own success, and designing a life that you love."
~An estimated 1.3 million children go missing every year.
~1 in 4 girls are sexually abused before age 18.
~1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18.
~Girls who reported childhood rape were 3 times more likely to become pregnant before age 18.
~Characteristics of typical victims of online predators~
~most but not all victims are between the age 12 & 15.
~Most victims tend to live in suburban or rural towns.
~Most victims are very sheltered & naive, although a few are at the opposite end of the spectrum & are willing to take serious risks.
~Most victims tend to be loners with few offline friends
~Most victims tend to spend more than 90 minutes of non-homework time a day online & are secretive about their online activities.
~Most victims tend to have few activities outside of the internet.
~Warning signs your child may be at risk~
~Phone calls- strange calls showing up on your phone bills.
~Gifts & packages arriving at your house.
~Secrecy-if your child is taking secrecy to the extreme.
~Your child spends large amounts of time online, especially at night.
~You find pornography on your child's computer.
~Your child turns the computer monitor off or quickly changes the screen when you come into the room.
~Your child becomes withdrawn form family.
~Your child is using an online account belonging to someone else.
If you believe you have been a victim of sexual exploitation or have been contacted by an online predator, or just have some questions, please schedule a complimentary 30 minute consultation with me (free of charge). This applies to children/teens & parents alike.
