what do I say??

Last week my world was turned upside down by the very thing I am constantly talking to you about.

Yes, I am talking about a guy.

I was happy and it was suddenly and shockingly ripped from me.

And I did things that I tell other females not to.

I acted rashly.

I didn't allow myself to back away from the situation and look at the big picture.

I was not going to die, but I sure felt like my heart had been ripped from my chest.

I allowed this guy into my life. Allowed myself to care for him. Allowed him into my heart. Allowed myself to feel for him.....then he bailed on me.

Typical story, right?

All I could think was why did I do this to myself...

I wasn't given reasons or explanations. I was confused and hurt.

Well, I'm here to say it's been a week & I've bounced back.

I want to be honest with the people who read my blog & the people who follow me, the people who care about what I have to say.

I have been through this stuff too.

I know what it feels like and it doesn't feel good.

Now I know that I will go on. I still want him. But I have plans for my future. I still care about him that hasn't changed.

However, now is time for me. I must take this time to focus on me and my future. My business & what I plan for my future.

I am strong. I shall survive.

Raise your standards & Believe in yourself!

Be honest.....Are you completely confident and secure in your own shoes?

Do you believe in your own abilities?

.....or are you constantly questioning who you are as a person?

We all have our past, the experiences that shape who we are today. BUT those experiences do not have to shape your future.

If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?

It is important to think highly enough of yourself and your capabilities in order to portray a positive image to others. Otherwise you will just reek of negativity and people will not want to be around you because you will bring them down with you.

Each and every one of us is born with special gifts and distinctive traits. The key is knowing what yours are.

See yourself as others see you. Embrace all that you offer & everything you contribute to those around you.

Try this exercise to lift your spirits & open your eyes about yourself.:

Take out a piece of paper. Review your life and list all of your achievements. You can write down anything and everything you view as an achievement. The event doesn't have to be a huge one to be viewed as an achievement in your eyes. List as many as you can. If you get stumped, ask loved ones & friends to help out.

Once finished, step back & take a long look at your list. Then pat yourself on the back.

You did all that! Yes, you!

In order to raise your standards & believe in yourself, you need to embrace self confidence.

Everytime you talk negatively about yourself or others, it lowers your standards so just stop it.

Don't be the one to gossip or talk down to others; take the high road with class & respect.

When we talk negatively, it exudes a negative energy toward people. You can literally feel the negative energy when you meet someone like this.

Stand tall & radiate self-confidence & positive vibes.

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Shush that Negative Voice in your Head

Going through a typical day, what does the predominant voice in your head sound like?

~ Do you hear mostly encouraging positive words like "good job" or "you can do that"?

~or are they self-defeating & negative such as "I can't believe you did that" & "you aren't smart enough"?

Sometimes we hear these words so often that we become immune to their impact on our daily lives & well-being.

It is truly amazing how profoundly these words can affect all of the decisions we make in our life.

The 1st step to become aware of the dialogue that goes on inside your head & then you can choose to replace the negative words with more constructive words.

How would it feel if you were your own biggest cheerleader? Wouldn't it feel empowering to rely on yourself to lift your spirits?

You are simply breaking down the core of who you are when you are constantly putting yourself down.

There are many things in life that you have absolutely no control over. The voice in your head however is completely under your control. You can pick & choose the words that fly around on a daily basis.

It all starts with your mind & your thoughts, & then naturally other areas of your life are able to shift positively as well.

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Cleaning up your relationships....

As I'm sure you have noticed, I am a big believer in making room for the new.

You may think that is a crude way to put this, but it's simply the truth.

In order to make room for the awesome new people who are destined to cross paths with you, you must make room for them.

And this means, you must clear out some of the old relationships that are not benefiting you anymore.

Ask yourself this:

How does it feel to be surrounded by people who make you feel good about yourself?

These people celebrate the person you are & support you to the best you can be.

How does it feel to be around people who drain your energy?

These individuals focus on the negatives & provide very little encouragement or joy to the relationship.

Obviously when I am talking about clearing out relationships, I'm talking about the latter.

We all know these people. Just cut ties. You do not need this constant drain.

You have many choices in your life, but choosing who to surround yourself with is essential to your physical & emotional well-being.

Now is the time for you to re-evaluate the relationships in your life & determine a course of action. Give yourself permission to spring clean the people in your life. You have the choice & ability to surround yourself with individuals who genuinely contribute to your growth & happiness.

People grow in different directions & sometimes choose to take seperate paths.

It is no ones fault.

Sometimes you may feel that a relationship is worth salvaging & that you're not quite ready to let it go. If this is the case, then it's important that you set some clear boundaries & let the other person know what changes need to be made.

If you do not communicate, nothing will change.

The people you choose to surround yourself with are a true reflection of who you are & what you value in life.

Life is far too short to spend time & energy on things that do not have much value.

If someone is holding you back form being the amazing being that you are, it's ok to stand tall & move on.

Do you need some life help?

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Excuses.....

Does this sound like you?

~you have great desires, but the motivation or drive just isn't there.

~sometimes you are just clearly unmotivated to do anything.

If this is every now & then it would not be a big deal.

It's easy to come up with excuses to put off your dreams, goals, & aspirations. Otherwise there would be no need for personal trainers, therapists, self help gurus or even life coaches like me in the world.

But....where have these excuses gotten you? The exact same place you are today & the same place you will be tomorrow unless you do something about them. NOW

Why not commit to taking action today, not tomorrow, even if it's a very small step.

Stop waiting for your life to change for you, you need to change for your life.

Sometimes it helps to look at what you can accomplish every day, instead of looking at the large picture. Looking at a goal in its entirety is sometimes so overwhelming that it stops you in your tracks.

Anything is possible if you just break a goal down into bite size chunks. Do not set yourself up to fail by creating unrealistic expectations.

If a goal is important enough to you, you will find the means to make it happen.

Going for it is about taking one step after another, not worrying about the destination, just surviving the journey. Just go at your own pace, because it's your journey, no one else's.

Contact me if you think you may need some life help.

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Toxic Relationships

I don't just mean male~female relationships. These can be friendships and even family member relationships. Sometimes you just have to break the ties.

You need to be able to recognize when a relationship is toxic to you.

Is this person always criticizing you, always bringing you down, always trying to make you feel bad?

Get away now.

Yes, even if it's a family member.

It's okay to distance yourself from these people.

You are meant to be all that you are meant to be.

Do not let anyone get in your way.

Do not let anyone hold you back.

Do not let anyone tell you any different!

For every step forward you make, there will always be someone there trying to knock you down 3. It is up to you to hold your own.

It is up to you to know that you are stronger than those words.

You are better that what they say.

You are you & you deserve it all!

I tend to use myself as examples quite a bit. Tonights post is a result of how I am feeling right at this moment. I am lifting myself up.

I hope it does the same for all of you.

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It's ok to make the 1st move......really

so you see this guy......you think he's kinda hot. You'd really love to talk to him, but you've been taught that it's the guys job to make the first move.

Come on!

Get off your butt & do something about your single girl status!

Or it just won't change.

Are you in a bar? Motion the bartender...tell them you want to order him a drink. Yes, this is ok.

Guys are in the bar to meet girls. Why are you there??

Smile at him, catch his eye.

Better yet, get up, go over & say hello.

Not that brave. Make up an excuse to talk to him. Whatever it takes.

Sometimes a guy is just as shy and nervous as you. Remember that. They don't want to be rejected either. They need a sign that you are willing and interested to talk. Give it to him.

The trick to starting a conversation is using an icebreaker. A small remark or question that can be directed toward absolutely anyone. Something that seems spur of the moment, unintentional, & casual.

Make the meeting look almost accidental.

Ask the time, or say don't you go to my gym..... think of a list of ice breakers beforehand so you don't get nervous and forget how to speak.

You aren't asking him out. You are just being friendly and sociable.

Keep it casual and you will get the result you want.

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