Thursday, April 29, 2010

Toxic Relationships

Thursday, April 29, 2010
I don't just mean male~female relationships. These can be friendships and even family member relationships. Sometimes you just have to break the ties.

You need to be able to recognize when a relationship is toxic to you.
Is this person always criticizing you, always bringing you down, always trying to make you feel bad?

Get away now.

Yes, even if it's a family member.
It's okay to distance yourself from these people.
You are meant to be all that you are meant to be.

Do not let anyone get in your way.
Do not let anyone hold you back.
Do not let anyone tell you any different!

For every step forward you make, there will always be someone there trying to knock you down 3. It is up to you to hold your own.
It is up to you to know that you are stronger than those words.
You are better that what they say.
You are you & you deserve it all!

I tend to use myself as examples quite a bit. Tonights post is a result of how I am feeling right at this moment. I am lifting myself up.
I hope it does the same for all of you.

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Tuesday, April 20, 2010

It's ok to make the 1st move......really

Tuesday, April 20, 2010
so you see this think he's kinda hot. You'd really love to talk to him, but you've been taught that it's the guys job to make the first move.
Come on!
Get off your butt & do something about your single girl status!
Or it just won't change.

Are you in a bar? Motion the bartender...tell them you want to order him a drink. Yes, this is ok.
Guys are in the bar to meet girls. Why are you there??
Smile at him, catch his eye.
Better yet, get up, go over & say hello.
Not that brave. Make up an excuse to talk to him. Whatever it takes.
Sometimes a guy is just as shy and nervous as you. Remember that. They don't want to be rejected either. They need a sign that you are willing and interested to talk. Give it to him.

The trick to starting a conversation is using an icebreaker. A small remark or question that can be directed toward absolutely anyone. Something that seems spur of the moment, unintentional, & casual.
Make the meeting look almost accidental.
Ask the time, or say don't you go to my gym..... think of a list of ice breakers beforehand so you don't get nervous and forget how to speak.

You aren't asking him out. You are just being friendly and sociable.
Keep it casual and you will get the result you want.

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