Monday, July 19, 2010

Full Circle

Monday, July 19, 2010
I want to keep everyone updated on what I am doing & the changes going on in my own life because they will be reflected here in my blog.

I have recently experienced a lot of changes in my life.
I had a breakthrough about a week ago.
I knew I was heading in a new direction.
Knew I was going down a new path & wanted to reach out to new people, but just didn't know who until I opened the paper on Saturday morning. I began reading an article about a local teenager and her family who basically went to hell and back. (
It just hit me like a ton of bricks!

I want to work with abuse victims.
I want to work with parents of teens.
I want to help them see the warning signs of cyber seduction.
I want to help prevent this.

I have always known this.
But when I was starting off as a life coach I was led down a different path because the people I was working with believed there wasn't any money in this type of work.
But here I am almost a year later & it's all come back to me.
I am embarking on a new journey and this time I will not be swayed.
I am also considering starting a training program for other people like myself to be trained to be life coaches who want to help heal.

Now back to that Saturday. I read that article, which I still have by the way. I may just keep it forever and then I felt the very powerful need to tell these people thank you! So I did just that!
They had a book signing at Barnes & Noble this past Saturday. I went & purchased the book, had them sign it. Told them what I do, what I plan on doing & how the article influenced me. Told them thank you & shook their hands.

Remember that when you show gratitude, the Universe gives you more to be grateful for. I saw just that.

So I want to continue to be motivational and inspirational with my blog, but I also want to be informative about this new area I am going into. I will be doing lots of research in the area of cyber seduction and online predators. I have attended many conferences on these areas already with the child advocacy center when I was there. I remember the horror stories. I want to be about prevention. I always hear so much about intervention.

Prevention can be taught.
You do not have to lock your children up.
You just have to keep your eyes open.
Do not be blind.
Do not not see what you do not want to see.

So again, I just wanted to keep everyone informed.
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog.
I appreciate each and every one of you.



Sunday, July 18, 2010

Appreciation is magic

Sunday, July 18, 2010
It is always nice to feel appreciated.
Some people seek out the need to feel appreciated.
If you are one of these people, try doing the things in this list.
I wrote these tips while I was being certified as a Life Coach.
I still happen to think they are pretty great!

8 Tips/Keys on Appreciation:

1. Ask your children/loved ones to tell you 1 thing they appreciate about you each night before bed.
2. A few appreciative words can motivate you to work harder.
3. Lead by example- Never forget to say thanks or how appreciative you are.
4. Graciously accept the appreciation- always say thank you for noticing.
5. Take the time to celebrate the small things you do well every day.
6. Convert your compliments into acknowledgements.
Ex. Excellent lasagna- you are a great cook!
7. When you take the time to show appreciation for someone else, you may just make their day when it's only cost you a few moments of yours.
8. Appreciate yourself, say it out loud. Who cares what the person next to you thinks! You are fabulous!

A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.


Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Put on a Happy Face

Tuesday, July 13, 2010
A smile makes people feel welcome and comfortable!
It is hard to stay in a bad mood when you a smile on your face.

Life has its winners & losers, but nobody's born a winner.
You have to learn how to win. If you do not, you automatically train yourself to lose.
Losing doesn't have to be a life sentence.....We aren't born ineffective.

It is never too late to restore the dream.
All it takes is the will to top the deepest capacity that's within you, embrace it, claim it, make it your own.

True awakening is not something you jump out of bed and just do. Unless you just happen to be born perfect, it takes effort to work on yourself & grow, to correct the weaknesses & develop the combination of skills, attitudes, & personal character that add up to a winning way of life.

You cannot possibly become what you wish to be by remaining what you are.

Our disappointments are almost never anybody else's fault. They are largely our own doing, the result of failing to learn how to deal successfully with other people.

Look for personal power at home, on the job, or out in the community.
You will find people who have a knack of dealing with people in meaningful & enjoyable ways that bring personal satisfaction to all concerned.

Only when you recognize & understand that the impact of your behavior causes people to respond to you in the ways that rob you of confidence & undermine power, can you hope to find a way around your mistakes.

But understanding yourself is only half of the process. Doing something about it is the rest.


Sunday, July 11, 2010

a favor

Sunday, July 11, 2010
Author – unknown

Just up the road from my home is a field, with two horses in it.

From a distance, each horse looks like any other horse. But if you stop your car, or are walking by, you will notice something quite amazing.....

Looking into the eyes of one horse will disclose that he is blind. His owner has chosen not to have him put down, but has made a good home for him.

This alone is amazing.

If you stand nearby and listen, you will hear the sound of a bell.
Looking around for the source of the sound, you will see that it comes from the smaller horse in the field.

Attached to the horse's halter is a small bell

It lets the blind friend know where the other horse is, so he can follow.

As you stand and watch these two friends,
you'll see that the horse with the bell is always checking on the blind horse,
and that the blind horse will listen for the bell and then slowly walk
to where the other horse is,
trusting that he will not be led astray.

When the horse with the bell returns
to the shelter of the barn each evening,
it stops occasionally and looks back,
making sure that the blind friend isn't too far behind to hear the bell.

Like the blind horse,
we should not be thrown away just because we are not perfect
or because we have problems or challenges.

Sometimes we are the blind horse
being guided by the little ringing bell of those who are placed in our lives.
Other times we are the guide horse, helping others to find their way....
Good friends are like that .... you may not always see them, but you know they are always there.

Please listen for my bell and I'll listen for yours.
And remember...
be kinder than necessary -
everyone you meet is fighting
some kind of battle.

Live simply,
Love generously,
Care deeply,
Speak kindly....


Monday, July 5, 2010

To stay or not to stay....

Monday, July 5, 2010
Are you in a relationship & you are trying to figure out if you should stay or leave it behind?
There is no magic formula for whether one should stay or go.
It is an individual decision that should not be taken lightly.

You should not stay in something only because you are afraid of being alone.
You should not commit to someone because you are afraid you will never find anyone else.

Every relationship is going to have its up & downs.

If two people are committed to making things work & they still love each other as partners & friends, they have a great chance of growing as a couple.

It is up to you to decide though.

Are you or are you not currently happy in your relationship?
Is your partner also dissatisfied?
Are you constantly looking to your partner to make you happy?
Remember that just because you aren't happy doesn't mean there's anything critically wrong in your relationship. You could be blaming your partner for your unhappiness, when you need to take responsibility for creating your own happiness.
On the flipside, there could be fundamental problems that need to be addressed.
If you have been unhappy for awhile & your partner isn't intersted in working to improve the relationship, it may be time for you to explore your options.

If there are fundamental problems, have you sought out help?
If you still care for your partner, don't throw in the towel before you have given it your all.
No matter the final outcome, you will feel at peace that you gave it your best effort.

Do not let fear be the decision maker.
If you are extremely unhappy in a relationship & you have tried several methods of reconciliation, then it may be time to take a break.
So many people assume it is a black or white issue, meaning you either stay together or completely break up.
There's always a gray area to explore if you choose.
Temporarily separate in order to rethink your options & see how it feels to be aloen.

Each & every one of you is stronger than you may think.

Make sure you either leave for the right reasons or stay for the right reasons.

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