Thursday, December 24, 2009

Tips for a Good 1st Date.....

Thursday, December 24, 2009
1. Think Positively~ think about your wonderful attributes & not your faults. Take inventory of your skills, values, talents, interests, & heart. Leave all negative thoughts at home. You are absolutely wonderful & he's a fool if he doesn't realize it.

2. Keep Expectations in Check~ Do not start imagining yourself at the alter with your date. Do not jump the gun.

3. Dress Appropriately~ Be presentable, neat, well-groomed & in casual dress clothes. Strive to look like the girl next door & someone who would be proper to bring home to mom.

4. Pick a Quiet Place to Talk~ coffee shop or bookstores are good. Do not get involved in a meal because then paying may become an issue. No movies.

5. 1-2 hours tops~ the purpose is to get a feel for the person. Do not drag the date on. Leave something to the imagination.

There are 10 tips in all.......
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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

when someone disapoints you

Tuesday, December 22, 2009
We all face disappointment everyday in some way, shape, or form.
You cannot dwell upon it.
You must look at all the positive & good in your life & concentrate on that to get you through the feelings you feel when disappointed.

I tell myself, take a deep breath & shake it off.
I sometimes actually say it out loud!
Then I shake my hands as if I were actually shaking something off of myself.

It may sound pretty funny, but it works. I repeat this until I feel better.

Another way to cope with day to day disappointment & other feelings, is to journal.
I try to write in my own journal every night before going to bed.
I recommend writing before bedtime because it helps to free your mind of all those thoughts so that you can sleep better.

Remember, what you think about, you bring about.
If you are dwelling upon your feelings of disappointment, you will attract more disappointment me to yourself.
Like attracts like.

Positive thoughts are the way to go.
Think about anything positive when you feel your thoughts drifting. Say your affirmations. Either out loud or to yourself. Doesn't matter. The universe & the Higher Good still hears you when you think them.


Sunday, December 20, 2009

How can you boost your metabolism?

Sunday, December 20, 2009
1. Eat more~ often that is. The iconic 3 hearty meals (breakfast, lunch, supper) is very unhealthy for your body. The calories taken in during larger meals are stored as fat, while smaller meals throughout the day give you a boost of energy which you can slowly burn off.

2. Maintain a healthy diet~ what you eat is equally important. You need to eat an appropriate balanced diet full of protein & carbs. Eating whole foods instead of processed foods helps your body burn calories.

3. Lift weights~ mass will slowly replace stored fat. As you build muscle mass, your metabolism will begin to increase.

4. Pickup your cardio~ increases heart rate & allows you to breathe heavier. 20-30 min during weekdays should do the trick. You don't need to run a marathon. Just exercise in moderation. Start slow & build it up.

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Need some motivation or just someone in your corner cheering you on?
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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Weight Loss Motivation Tips

Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Everyone needs a little motivation on their weight loss journey.
Here are a few tips to help you along the way

1.Role Model~ Have a role model. Someone who eats healthily & works out regularly. Notice how that person acts around food, what they eat & how they eat. How do they fit exercise in?

2. Lose your clothes as you lose weight~ Get rid of any clothes that are too big as soon as you lose weight. Anyone with a fat set of clothes in the closet is expecting to fit them again & actions follow expectations.

3. Take inspiration from others~ read weight loss magazines. Cut out inspirational stories. If they can do it, so can you.

4. Take progress photos each month~ Take a pic of yourself in your swimsuit at the start of your weight loss journey. Each month take another picture wearing the same thing so you can see your progress.

5. Reward yourself~ Boost your weight loss motivation by promising yourself a treat when you reach your goals. Doesn't have to be food related. Ex. new clothes

I have more tips, of course

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Thursday, December 3, 2009

Know Your Product~ You, Silly!

Thursday, December 3, 2009
I know that you have heard it a million times, but I am going to say it again.
Maybe this time it will stick.
No one can love you until you love yourself.
It's true!

Before stepping out on the playing field, there are a few things you need to get in order. You must understand yourself & love yourself.
Wake up every morning & say to yourself "I love & approve of myself."
This is a start.

There are a few things you really need to evaluate about yourself.
What are your goals in life?
What motivates you?
What are you passionate about?
What drives you crazy?
What makes you happy?
What would you be doing if you could do anything?

Now that you know yourself a little better, you are better equipped to step out onto the field.
Keep an open mind though. If you keep your mind open to exploring new things, you will find more interests & have a greater chance of finding a guy who shares them.

Remember, you must first love your product~ you!
If you don't like the product, then why should anyone else?

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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Bad days

Wednesday, December 2, 2009
we all have them....
as I write this, I have a doossyy
My head is still spinning actually.

I got up this morning, woke up the grouchy kid, got her out the door to take her to school to discover my tire was way low.
I drove her to school then went straight to the gas station & put air in the tire.
Then I went back home.
It's a cold & wet/rainy day. May snow tonight.
I had an appointment at 1pm about 30min from my home about my daughter's ADHD.
About 11am I went to the bank to cash a check & my tire was low again.
Well, by this time, I did not have enough time to get the tire checked out before I had to leave for my apt with my daughter's doctor so I went to Walmart & got some fix a flat.
The tire was losing air very quickly.
I put the fix a flat in & put more air in it & headed out of town.
When I got to my destination, I put more air in my tire & more fix a flat too, & got gas. Then I headed to the doctors office.
Well, the tire was extremely low when I got to the office.
I started thinking this is not good.
I tried to call my brother to see if he could come change my tire. Called my sister to have her try him & to see if there was anywhere in this town that would change it. I knew that I would be at the appointment for at least an hour.
Well, I was there over that amount of time. When I came out, the tire was flat. I knew there was a gas station right down the road, so I headed there. No air pressure hose, so I headed further down the road. They had a mechanic there & they told me I couldn't drive on the tire & they could not fix it either.
I told the guy, "I didn't ask you to fix it, I asked you to change it."
Yeah, by this point I was not in a good mood.

It was now 2:30pm & I had to pick up my daughter at 3pm from school & I was already 30 min away. The guy said it would be 20-30 min before he could do it. Ugh!
So I said, what choice do I have.
He took my keys & I got on my phone.
Called my mom who didn't answer.
Called my grandma who didn't answer.
Mom called back & I said can you pick Bailey up. She said no she was in Marion. I explained & she said she would go, but she was just as far away as I was.

Anyway, he finally fixed my car & I got on the road & got to pick up my kid because I am quicker than my mother. Guess that is the benefit of driving an Eclipse.

When I walked up to the school, I could see through the doors where Bailey was sitting on a bench. She looked so sad. As I approached, they opened the doors & she ran out into my arms & all my tension melted away. She didn't care that I was 20 minutes late. She was just happy that I showed up. I told her I was sorry, that I had a flat tire & had to get it fixed. I showed her my funny tire on my car & it was all good.
Then I took her to the milk store & let my ADHD child buy extra chocolate.
I know, bad mommy. Guilt.

Anyway, I am writing this to let you know that I am human too.
I have bad days, just like you. I have slip ups where I don't feel so positive & I don't want to think positively, but you have to rise above it & think ahead & beyond the negative in the present. It will get better.
You are in control of your situation.
It is what you make of it.
My daughter made me realize my situation was not all that bad today.
I hope this helps someone.