Thursday, December 24, 2009

Tips for a Good 1st Date.....

Thursday, December 24, 2009
1. Think Positively~ think about your wonderful attributes & not your faults. Take inventory of your skills, values, talents, interests, & heart. Leave all negative thoughts at home. You are absolutely wonderful & he's a fool if he doesn't realize it.

2. Keep Expectations in Check~ Do not start imagining yourself at the alter with your date. Do not jump the gun.

3. Dress Appropriately~ Be presentable, neat, well-groomed & in casual dress clothes. Strive to look like the girl next door & someone who would be proper to bring home to mom.

4. Pick a Quiet Place to Talk~ coffee shop or bookstores are good. Do not get involved in a meal because then paying may become an issue. No movies.

5. 1-2 hours tops~ the purpose is to get a feel for the person. Do not drag the date on. Leave something to the imagination.

There are 10 tips in all.......
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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

when someone disapoints you

Tuesday, December 22, 2009
We all face disappointment everyday in some way, shape, or form.
You cannot dwell upon it.
You must look at all the positive & good in your life & concentrate on that to get you through the feelings you feel when disappointed.

I tell myself, take a deep breath & shake it off.
I sometimes actually say it out loud!
Then I shake my hands as if I were actually shaking something off of myself.

It may sound pretty funny, but it works. I repeat this until I feel better.

Another way to cope with day to day disappointment & other feelings, is to journal.
I try to write in my own journal every night before going to bed.
I recommend writing before bedtime because it helps to free your mind of all those thoughts so that you can sleep better.

Remember, what you think about, you bring about.
If you are dwelling upon your feelings of disappointment, you will attract more disappointment me to yourself.
Like attracts like.

Positive thoughts are the way to go.
Think about anything positive when you feel your thoughts drifting. Say your affirmations. Either out loud or to yourself. Doesn't matter. The universe & the Higher Good still hears you when you think them.


Sunday, December 20, 2009

How can you boost your metabolism?

Sunday, December 20, 2009
1. Eat more~ often that is. The iconic 3 hearty meals (breakfast, lunch, supper) is very unhealthy for your body. The calories taken in during larger meals are stored as fat, while smaller meals throughout the day give you a boost of energy which you can slowly burn off.

2. Maintain a healthy diet~ what you eat is equally important. You need to eat an appropriate balanced diet full of protein & carbs. Eating whole foods instead of processed foods helps your body burn calories.

3. Lift weights~ mass will slowly replace stored fat. As you build muscle mass, your metabolism will begin to increase.

4. Pickup your cardio~ increases heart rate & allows you to breathe heavier. 20-30 min during weekdays should do the trick. You don't need to run a marathon. Just exercise in moderation. Start slow & build it up.

Need some extra help losing that weight?
Need some motivation or just someone in your corner cheering you on?
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Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Weight Loss Motivation Tips

Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Everyone needs a little motivation on their weight loss journey.
Here are a few tips to help you along the way

1.Role Model~ Have a role model. Someone who eats healthily & works out regularly. Notice how that person acts around food, what they eat & how they eat. How do they fit exercise in?

2. Lose your clothes as you lose weight~ Get rid of any clothes that are too big as soon as you lose weight. Anyone with a fat set of clothes in the closet is expecting to fit them again & actions follow expectations.

3. Take inspiration from others~ read weight loss magazines. Cut out inspirational stories. If they can do it, so can you.

4. Take progress photos each month~ Take a pic of yourself in your swimsuit at the start of your weight loss journey. Each month take another picture wearing the same thing so you can see your progress.

5. Reward yourself~ Boost your weight loss motivation by promising yourself a treat when you reach your goals. Doesn't have to be food related. Ex. new clothes

I have more tips, of course

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Sometimes you just need someone in your corner.


Thursday, December 3, 2009

Know Your Product~ You, Silly!

Thursday, December 3, 2009
I know that you have heard it a million times, but I am going to say it again.
Maybe this time it will stick.
No one can love you until you love yourself.
It's true!

Before stepping out on the playing field, there are a few things you need to get in order. You must understand yourself & love yourself.
Wake up every morning & say to yourself "I love & approve of myself."
This is a start.

There are a few things you really need to evaluate about yourself.
What are your goals in life?
What motivates you?
What are you passionate about?
What drives you crazy?
What makes you happy?
What would you be doing if you could do anything?

Now that you know yourself a little better, you are better equipped to step out onto the field.
Keep an open mind though. If you keep your mind open to exploring new things, you will find more interests & have a greater chance of finding a guy who shares them.

Remember, you must first love your product~ you!
If you don't like the product, then why should anyone else?

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Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Bad days

Wednesday, December 2, 2009
we all have them....
as I write this, I have a doossyy
My head is still spinning actually.

I got up this morning, woke up the grouchy kid, got her out the door to take her to school to discover my tire was way low.
I drove her to school then went straight to the gas station & put air in the tire.
Then I went back home.
It's a cold & wet/rainy day. May snow tonight.
I had an appointment at 1pm about 30min from my home about my daughter's ADHD.
About 11am I went to the bank to cash a check & my tire was low again.
Well, by this time, I did not have enough time to get the tire checked out before I had to leave for my apt with my daughter's doctor so I went to Walmart & got some fix a flat.
The tire was losing air very quickly.
I put the fix a flat in & put more air in it & headed out of town.
When I got to my destination, I put more air in my tire & more fix a flat too, & got gas. Then I headed to the doctors office.
Well, the tire was extremely low when I got to the office.
I started thinking this is not good.
I tried to call my brother to see if he could come change my tire. Called my sister to have her try him & to see if there was anywhere in this town that would change it. I knew that I would be at the appointment for at least an hour.
Well, I was there over that amount of time. When I came out, the tire was flat. I knew there was a gas station right down the road, so I headed there. No air pressure hose, so I headed further down the road. They had a mechanic there & they told me I couldn't drive on the tire & they could not fix it either.
I told the guy, "I didn't ask you to fix it, I asked you to change it."
Yeah, by this point I was not in a good mood.

It was now 2:30pm & I had to pick up my daughter at 3pm from school & I was already 30 min away. The guy said it would be 20-30 min before he could do it. Ugh!
So I said, what choice do I have.
He took my keys & I got on my phone.
Called my mom who didn't answer.
Called my grandma who didn't answer.
Mom called back & I said can you pick Bailey up. She said no she was in Marion. I explained & she said she would go, but she was just as far away as I was.

Anyway, he finally fixed my car & I got on the road & got to pick up my kid because I am quicker than my mother. Guess that is the benefit of driving an Eclipse.

When I walked up to the school, I could see through the doors where Bailey was sitting on a bench. She looked so sad. As I approached, they opened the doors & she ran out into my arms & all my tension melted away. She didn't care that I was 20 minutes late. She was just happy that I showed up. I told her I was sorry, that I had a flat tire & had to get it fixed. I showed her my funny tire on my car & it was all good.
Then I took her to the milk store & let my ADHD child buy extra chocolate.
I know, bad mommy. Guilt.

Anyway, I am writing this to let you know that I am human too.
I have bad days, just like you. I have slip ups where I don't feel so positive & I don't want to think positively, but you have to rise above it & think ahead & beyond the negative in the present. It will get better.
You are in control of your situation.
It is what you make of it.
My daughter made me realize my situation was not all that bad today.
I hope this helps someone.


Saturday, November 28, 2009

so...I talk to myself, so what???

Saturday, November 28, 2009
Yup, I admit it. I talk to myself. Daily. More than once a day.

Does that make me crazy??

Affirmations are positive statements about how you want your life to be written in present tense.

Just positive statements that you say to yourself.
You need to say them at least once a day, preferably right directly after you wake in the morning.
What you are attempting to do is take the negative thoughts you already think over & over everyday & replace them with positive affirmations.
Negative attracts negative & positive attracts positive.
Simple, right?

Well, I started doing this not very long ago. It was suggested to me by Zoe at Katapult which I am sure you all know by now is my Life Coach & she trained me to be a life coach as well. She is just great & I think the world of her.

So I wrote a few affirmations down on a piece of paper & taped them to the bathroom mirror. My bathroom mirror is huge so I have room, you may not. I definitely recommend writing them down & hanging them in your bathroom though.
Think about it. How many times a day do you visit the bathroom? Exactly.

So I say my affirmations everytime I am in the bathroom, basically.
I read them out loud, say them in my head. Sometimes I repeat some of them.

Up to you how you do it, but I recommend saying them out loud at least once a day. First thing in the morning is best because it puts you in a positive state of mind.
Now my first affirmation list started with 3 or 4 affirmations. Then I read some money magnet affirmations & added a few of them to my list. About a week later, I received a check in the mail. Out of the blue, completely unexpected. I was extremely excited & a true believer!

So now you give it a try.
If you would like help coming up with some affirmation, feel free to message me.

Here are a few examples:
I am a money magnet
Life is eternal & filled with joy.
I let go of the past & use it only for its positive lessons.
I change the world around me by changing myself.
I am now open to receive.
I have unlimited abundance.

I have tons more where those came from.
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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Strive for Excellence....

Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Excellence is memorable.
It's also time consuming & intentional.
You will not be excellent by accident.

Are you ready to put forth the effort it takes to be excellent?

1. Create an email autoresponder so that when someone joins your mailing list, they receive valuable gifts from you.

2. Hire an answering service so a live person answers your phone 24 hours a day.

3. Have anyone who answers your phone use a script so they know how to respond professionally.

4. Hire employees & independent contractors who have the same core value as you & who believe in your business.

5. Send birthday cards to your clients & employees & outsourced help.

6. Send handwritten notes to clients before they come into meet you.

7. Respond to emails within 24 hours. If you cannot do this yourself, hire a virtual assistant.

8. Send a congratulations gift to clients who complete a program that you offer & include a special offer or discount for another product or service.

There are many other tips that I can share with you.



Sunday, November 15, 2009

Abusive Personalities

Sunday, November 15, 2009
Do you know the signs of an abusive personality?
I do.

Sneak peak:
1. Quick involvement- only dates for 6 months or less before talking you into moving in.
2. Unrealistic Expectations- very dependent on you for everything.
3. Isolation- tries to cut you off from friends & family
4. Playful use of force during sex- likes throwing you down, holding your wrists, jumping on top of you, or holding you up against the wall to have sex
5. Verbal abuse- constantly criticizes you

There are 5 more.

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I have a passion

Your passions stir your actions!

I've mentioned I have 2 Bachelor degrees, 1 in Social Work & 1 in Psychology.
I have always known that I am a "helper"
That is my goal in life, to help as many people as I can.

When I found Zoe & Katapult Enterprises, I just knew that I was meant to be a life coach & was meant to work with Zoe.
Life coaching is another way for me to help.

I interned at the Child Advocacy Center local to me so I have seen a lot of heartache. I know what is feels like to ache for others.

I am a single mom. It hasn't always been a pleasant ride for me. I built a support system & was able to make it.

Maybe I have walked in your shoes.........

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Friday, November 13, 2009

The Don'ts of Dating

Friday, November 13, 2009
Don't Stalk
Don't look needy or desperate
Don't be overly aggressive or pushy
Don't make emotional decisions
Don't rearrange your schedule for a guy

Pretty straight forward, right?

Want to know WHY you should not do these things?


Monday, November 9, 2009

How to get your "Go For It" Attitude!

Monday, November 9, 2009
So you want to change........
you want to better your life in one area or another.....
BUT you do not.
Why is that?
What is holding you back?

Everyone needs a little attitude adjustment from time to time.
Here's a few tips to get a "Go For It" attitude so you can make that change you want in your life.

1.Who needs permission?- There isn't any reason you cannot do what you want to do. You do not need anyone's permission so stop asking for it! You just need to believe in yourself.

2. Who needs an invitation?- In today's competitive world, you are responsible for creating your own opportunities. You cannot wait for an invitation in the mail. The opportunities may just pass you up if you are.

3. Build a support team- get rid of all the negative people in your life who are pulling you down & draining you emotionally. This pulls your strength & self-esteem down with them. You need a team of supporters. People who will stand on the sidelines & cheer for you!

This can work in any area of your life.
Weight loss goals
Starting your own business
Getting out there & dating again

Try it & see how it works out for you.
Don't forget to email me & tell me how it works for you!
Don't forget about the $50 power hour! On the spot coaching just for you!


Sunday, November 8, 2009

Are You Mompreneur Material?

Sunday, November 8, 2009
Mompreneurs have certain characteristics.
Do you have what it takes to go out on your own & start your own business while raising a family?

Mompreneurs have self-discipline.
Mompreneurs have the ability to shift gears often.
Mompreneurs have a knack for networking.
Mompreneurs have great organizational skills.
Mompreneurs are always professional.
Mompreneurs must possess a great sense of humor.

Why are these characteristics important?
Why must moms who want to start their own business possess all of these characteristics?

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You Are Not a Princess

Okay Ladies, do I really have to go here?
No matter how much you expect to be treated like royalty, you are not a princess. Stop expecting unrealistic things if you ever want to get married.

Women with unrealistic expectations often never marry!
They are too busy knocking every guy down that tries to woo them.

Women who have unrealistic goals for themselves & their lives are not hanging onto a better life, but they are holding out for a dream.

If you work for or around rich & powerful men, you often find yourself thinking you must marry the same type of man. Really all you are doing is becoming your own worst enemy. What about all those guys who are still working their way to the top? Do you just shoot them all down without ever really getting to know them?

Take a deep breath & consider your options. Start dating men that you could possibly have a future with.

Also,do not allow your friends & family dictate who you date based on their unrealistic expectations. Just because your mom & dad do not think anyone is good enough for you, does not really mean that no one is good enough for you.

Yes, you should have standards.
However they should not be set in stone or you may pass up "the one."

Need help finding him? I can help.
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Saturday, November 7, 2009

Did you know.....

Saturday, November 7, 2009
that there is an age of committment for men. This is when they are more likely to get married.
If you are looking for marriage, it is imperative that you know these facts!

This age depends on the guy's level of education as well.
For example, guys who graduate high school but do not go on to college, will be ready to marry before the college guys are.

Men like to wait until they have entered the work force & have sowed their wild oats before even considering marriage. Women have it on the brain since childhood.

If you pressure him at the wrong time, he will run.
If you bring up marriage or your future together too soon, he will run.

It is important that you get all the facts before you jump into the dating world with the intent to marry.
I have the facts.
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Are you an emotional eater?

Emotional eating is the practice of consuming large amounts of food~ usually junk food (comfort food)~ in response to your feelings instead of hunger.

Emotional eating is very common especially among women & teenage girls.
You are not alone & there is help.

First, you must ask yourself, Do you eat when you are not hungry?

Emotional eaters eat when they feel:

Reaching for your favorite food can become an automatic response when you are less than happy. You must recognize this behavior & put an end to it.

Here are a few signs of emotional eating:
1. Hunger comes on suddenly & it feels urgent.
2. You crave specific foods, mostly junk food.
3. You don't realize you are eating or how much you have eaten.
4. You feel extreme guilt after eating & regret doing it.

There are more signs, but these are a good inclination that you are an emotional eater. There is help for you.
You just have to seek it out.
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Hello Everyone

I am a certified Life Coach.
The areas I specialize in are: Weight Loss, Dating, & Mompreneur.

I will be adding great info to this blog about these areas.
Please follow my blog so that you can stay updated.
I will be offering Weight loss group coaching in person & via teleclasses in the future.
I will also offer teleclasses for finding Dates & the relationship you have always wanted.
Stay Tuned!