You want what others have.......true or false?

By name it's called the Jones Effect. It means you want what other people have. We as people believe if someone else likes what we like, it validates it as good.

Most women do not want the guy they like to think they are into someone else because then he may get discouraged and give up. WRONG!!!!!

Bring it on Sister!

This is a huge misconception.

Guys are competitive by nature.

All he sees is someone else wanting you. That is a good thing. Other men should want you.

Seeing you talk to other men will not scare him off. It should only fuel the fire.

When you first start dating someone, you want it to be pretty obvious that other men find you attractive. Talk and be friendly with the men around you. Don't go overboard though.

It's fine for him to think you are out with other guys. Don't explain where you are or who you are with. He isn't your daddy. You want him to question if you have another date.

Don't hide the fact that you have guy friends.

You don't have to ignore guys at a party.

Don't be obvious, but don't hide it either.

Fuel the flame, girl. See where it gets you......

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There's no such thing as mixed messages

You just have to know how to read them.......

A man's feelings are not black & white.

~he asks for your number but doesn't call....

~he calls but not regularly.....

~all over you one night but not the next.....

?????

These are all clear signs of of moderate to low interest. If you are my client, I would tell you to drop this dude fast! Most gals would continue to blow up the guy's phone though. Not the right path to take......

Being persistent will not make him like you more if he's displaying these signs. It will do the opposite. Better to cut your losses now.

Here are some signs of interest:

~the look-when a guy is interested, you will catch his eye. He will stop & look.

~Questions-when he's interested, he wants to know things about you. He will ask.

~Change in attitude & mannerisms- there may be a sudden change in his tone of voice, attitude or posture, he may become friendlier or chattier.

Bottom line~~When a guy is interested he basically tells you before you can ask if you open your eyes & pay attention. Learn to read the signs.

There are no such things as mixed messages. The signs are very clear as long as you know what you are looking at.

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Filling your funnel.......

funny saying, huh?

Well, it actually means never let the dating pool dry up.

Date many guys at once until you find the one you want to settle down with.

This works for 3 reasons:

1. you don't get attached too soon~ you aren't sitting at home thinking about Mr. 1 and only. You will drive yourself crazy by obsessing about a man. When you see him again, he will know you've been sitting around waiting too.

2. You won't be a complete wreck if things don't work out~ your confidence won't be shattered if one relationship doesn't work out because you have others.

3. Your odds are better~ the more men you date, the more likely you are to find the one.

Attracting Attention.......

and now you say Coach Amy, I'm with a flock of other girls, how are the guys going to notice me?

This is true. Girls go out with other girls. A gaggle of them. Anywhere from 5 to 10.

The goal is to look different. You must make yourself stick out from the pack.

I know that this scares some girls to death. They want no more than to blend in.

But if you spend you life blending, you Mr. Right may never notice you.

Men love it when you give them a reason to come talk to you. A great reason to talk is something about your outfit. So make yourself stand out with your clothes for starters.

You need a couple of staple outfits that are sure to get you noticed.

If you know that certain items in your wardrobe drum up a lot of attention, then wear them often.

Now, I don't mean party girl clothes because as I often say if you look like a party girl, that is how you will be treated. We dress for the role we want.

Try some new styles that are a little unusual & see what kind of reaction you get.

Women are constantly copying each other & want to look like celebrities. They follow trends and replicate images they see.

This is a big no no in the dating world. You want to stand out from the pack. You want the guys to notice you instead of the other 10 girls you are with.

You do not want to blend in & if you are all dressed like the celeb you saw in the magazine, you are going to look alike.

In order to stand out, you do not have to be more attractive than everyone else.

Don't shy away from something that makes you different. Embrace it!

Remember, fitting in & looking like everyone else is boring.

And who wants boring day in & day out?

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How do I prospect???

If you are serious about meeting guys, then you will dedicate time to find/meet new guys. Modify your agenda to allow time to prospect.

Where are the guys you ask?

happy hours

work functions

sports bars

restaurant openings

pool halls

coffee shops

Basically just try new places.

The smart way to prospect is to go where the most opportunity is. Ask yourself, if I were a guy where would I be?

Change up your daily routine~ go to a different grocery store, switch gyms, try a different church.

It's really about putting yourself in different places at different times.

I must also say, yes, meeting guys at clubs & bars is totally possible. It's the exact reason they are there.

Most importantly, you must remember you can meet a guy anywhere!

Put more effort into your appearance. You just never know when you will meet the one.

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Meeting the Family

Ever wanted a handwritten guide to go by when you were meeting your boyfriend's family for the first time?

Well, here's one.

No matter where the first meeting with your man's family takes place, dress as if you are going to church.

Be polite. (duh, right)

Be correct

Insist he introduce you to everyone & stay with you for the first 5 minutes of any conversation.

Do more listening than talking~ you don't want them to think you are full of yourself right off the bat.

Limit yourself to 1 or 2 drinks no matter how much anyone else is drinking.

Arrive on time & leave early.

Simple to follow. I am direct & to the point.

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Changes

So there are going to be some changes going on around here.

From now on my blog will be focusing on dating.

Only.

I will be the Girl Power Dating Coach now.

I have been working with a mentor & she has helped pull some info out of me.

I want to empower girls to become confident, sassy, & strong women!

So be on the lookout for lots of great dating advice.

I plan on leading teleseminars.

I am going to have packages for coaching.

All kinds of great stuff to come so keep your eyes open.....