Wednesday, March 10, 2010

a sense of urgency

Wednesday, March 10, 2010
The object is to create a sense of urgency in him. Make him think time is running out.
Your time is valuable & you need to be the first person to treat it that way!

When you first start dating someone, you should give him 2 choices of when he can see you and one of them should be a week night.
Your ultimate goal is to have him asking when you are available not the other way around.
If he is still repeatedly telling you when he is available, you are NOT creating enough urgency.

He must feel as if the pressure is not coming from your need to get married. Do not harrass him.
Do not say when are we going to get married.

Make a timetable~ ask yourself how long are you willing to date someone before deciding he's the one.
How long do you need to be certain?
How long will you date someone before making it official?

If you don't create urgency in yourself first & foremost, you will not ever be able to create any urgency with him.

You don't want to waste 10 years with a man who is never going to marry you. ~ It is easy to just let time slip away.

If you have found the right guy & you want to marry him, you need to decide how long you are willing to wait for him to propose. ~~ Doesn't matter what the length of time is as long as you set it & it's on your terms.

If you decide 4 years is long enough & that deadline has past, then you have to go.
Time to move on.
Stick to your guns.
Do not Share your timetable with him.

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